Tuesday, March 29, 2016

Changing How We Do Chores & Technology!



Oh how I dislike chores . . . hence the reason they are called chores - "An unpleasant, but necessary task" . . . yes, yes, they are!  And what a love/hate relationship I have with technology!  So, why do a post about both of them?

I am trying to rethink the way we here at the Gorbics house do chores and use technology and am going to try and process that here on my blog.  It was much easier when the kids were younger - they loved helping out and technology didn't surround them nearly as much as it does now.




As much as I dislike chores, I do like a clean, orderly home.  And as much as I dislike some aspects of technology, I do use it quite frequently for learning, communicating, finances and to find out all sorts of information.  And yes, I wouldn't be able to blog without the wonderful world of technology.
BUT, how many times have I chosen to ignore the accumulating dust on my entertainment center to check in with Facebook, real quick?  And how quickly that "real quick" turns into much longer.  And not just for myself, but it appears my kids have this tendency also.  Shocking isn't it?!  There are times I see them with spare time and they quickly turn to an app, the computer, Netflix or a video game.  I have no idea where they get that from - - - > (ME!).

So, I've been perusing the technology world, aka Pinterest, for some ideas to help out in both of these areas.  Here is what I've found:

I am not the only parent with this problem!  Aaaah, there is comfort in knowing you are not alone :)

There are a LOT of great ideas out there! And . . . I am going to try and implement some of them and then update you on how it goes.

While we use the Gorbics family as guinea pigs, there are a few things I need to keep in mind.
  • We do expect some chores to be done with no reward, monetary or otherwise.  I feel it is important that we all contribute to the running of our household.  
  • My kids are more than capable and do not need a reward for being part of the family.  
  • That said, I also think that using some sort of reward system can be a great learning tool (how to budget time and money, thinking long-term, etc) and we can all use some external motivation at times. 
  • I will be adapting some of the sites below to implement my own system that will get our chores done, allow my kids to earn money and/or tech time and hopefully, make our home run smoother overall!
I liked these sites in regards to managing technology:

Near Normalcy

Sports Mom

Mudpies and Make-up

They all have great ideas and PRINTABLES!  I just love printables.  I like having something tangible to look at and to implement.

For some age appropriate chores, charts and how/when to do them:

My 3 Monsters

Money Saving Mom

Happily Unprocessed

Again, it is so helpful to read through their ideas and glean what may work for us.  And more PRINTABLES! :)

And, with anything, please do not let these add to your list of "things I should be doing" or "yet another thing I need to do", but use these resources as ideas, motivation to lighten your load, not add to it!

Hopefully I'll be updating soon with how we've been implementing these!

Rita







Friday, March 18, 2016

Book Review - The Boy Who Played with Fusion by Tom Clynes




One of my unofficial goals for this year is to read more - YOU can read about that here.  And not just to read more, but to share what I am reading.  I like to read all kind of books; fiction, historical fiction, non-fiction, self- help and the occasional light-hearted novel.

So here is My First Book Review of 2016!

The Boy Who Played with Fusion by Tom Clynes . . . sounds exciting doesn't it?!  Ok, well maybe not at first glance, unless you are a big science buff, which I am not.  What did attract me was the "Extreme Science, Extreme Parenting and How to Make a Star" part.  I don't even recall if is saw it on FB, Goodreads or at a bookstore, but I added to my own Goodreads account and let is sit there. Since February is a great time for reading in Indiana, I placed a variety of books on hold at our local library and waited to for them to come in . . . and this was one of them.

First off, no, I am not raising geniuses (though every parent thinks their kid(s) are at one time or another) and no, I don't encourage my kids to play with fusion!  But what this book did challenge me to do was to really watch my children and see what interests them and encourage them in those interests.

This book tells the story of Taylor Wilson.  A boy with a very strong interest in all things science; rockets, space, fusion, fission, etc.  It begins with a 9 year old version and ends shortly after his high school graduation.  The story of Taylor is a fun one, mostly because he is an energetic, gregarious boy and does everything with all that is in him.  In amongst the story of Taylor, we find information on parenting, science, fusion, fission (do you know the difference?), gifted and talented kids, science, the history and future of gifted and talented programs, science, difficulties with inclusive education and more science.

As a homeschool mother, there were many things I could glean from this book.  One, was how Taylor's parents, Kenneth and Tiffany provided and encouraged their son, even when they were unsure about his path.  "Most significant, Kenneth and Tiffany adapted by opening up opportunities that were outside the mainstream of what's available to most kids in southern Arkansas.  Plenty of parents support their offspring's interests by buying things for them or dropping them off at the best schools or art centers that money can buy; far fewer put real time and effort into creating customized, hands-on opportunities that meaningful expand their children's - and often their own - range of experiences." (Emphasis added) Hmmm, how often do I look for experiences for my children?  I am challenged to find actual experiences for us as individuals and as a family that will enhance my children's learning.

Another thing I gleaned was to continue on in our decision that I have the ability to decide how/when/if/where/what kind of testing my children need.  It was encouraging to know that I try to "put the value of learning above the value of not failing" What I try to do in our home, is not to dictate to my children what they need to know, but to ask them to tell (or narrate) to me what they have learned from a lesson.  This not only encourages participation, but also allows absorption of material. Over the past few years, the mainstream culture has issued high-pressure testing for many children.  This is high-stakes for not only the students, but for the teachers also.  While I fondly recall testing as a child (I was one of the few, I am sure), I learned quickly how to absorb and regurgitate the information without really learning anything.  "When students have a growth mindset," says Dweck, (Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck) "they understand that intelligence can be developed.  Students focus on improvement instead of worrying about how smart they are and hungering for approval.  They work hard to learn more and get smarter."  When we have done testing, it is to gauge and see if there are any areas that they may need some more time, a different approach  or specific focus on. How can I continue to create an environment that fosters real learning and engages my children to become active participants in their education?

When I was in Jr High, I was part of the new gifted and talented program.  I don't really see myself as gifted or talented, except that I was gifted, by my father particularly, with the value to THINK.  And I feel strongly that the capacity to think for oneself has gone out of style, not just for the gifted and talented, but for the education of all students. "Acquiring knowledge for its own sake has gone out of fashion, replaced by a high-pressure talent track onto which promising, prosperous children are pushed. . .  Maybe that's not what education for the gifted should be all about. Maybe it should be about (1) encouraging supersmart kids to discover who they really are and who they want to become and giving them the support and freedom to pursue their passions; (2) developing talents into suitable and fulfilling careers that enhance interesting, rewarding live; and(3) encourage curiosity and intellectual risk-taking that might lead to  original, useful ideas that propel a field - or even a civilization - forward." How do I, even if my children aren't "gifted & talented", try to do this every day?

There is a LOT of science talk in this book.  Some (read: MOST) that I did not understand.  Micah is learning the elements on the Periodic Table this year, so that was fun to come across one we have studied. I also learned the difference between fission and fusion!

Overall, this book was an encouragement to me, as a homeschool mom, particularly.  I have the privilege to step out of the "norms", the bureaucracy, the testing and the "this is how we have to do it" attitudes and create for each child of mine an environment, education and experience tailored just for them. So, maybe an encouragement and a challenge?!





Saturday, March 5, 2016

Fitting It All In

“No man has the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.” 
Socrates

This quote in on the wall of the gym where the kids and I go each Friday morning for our workout (Not the first quote from my gym I've used here). I began my journey to see the beauty and strength of which my body was/is capable of about a year and a half ago at Rockstar Gym.  Rockstar is now just one part of my fitness routine.

Why do I like Rockstar Gym and why do I take my kids there?  The answers to these go hand in hand. Rockstar focuses on Functional Training . . . "Functional training is a classification of exercise which involves training the body for the activities performed in daily life "(Wikipedia).  So, me, only better.  Each workout, whether group or individual, is like a personal training session.  The trainers are always offering suggestions to modify the exercises to make it simpler or more challenging depending on where you, as an individual, are.  They are there to instruct you on proper form and want to make sure that your form is correct before any increase in weight/difficulty.  Functional training isn't necessarily just about losing weight or bulking up either!  This is the part that I feel is important for me to pass onto my children and that many gyms miss the mark on.  Being healthy and fit isn't about how you look - it's about how you feel and that you are able to be an active participant in life!  

After working out at Rockstar, I decided to ask about classes for my kids.  As a homeschool mom, if I find something I love, I want to share it with my kids and others.  Rockstar was willing to host a homeschool class on Friday mornings!  I love that my 6 year old, 11 year old, 18 year old and I can all go and participate in a workout together - we are not only getting fit together, but are also having fun together! 




Originally, when I started exercising, I wanted to just zone out and get it in (running, walking).  However, due to my personality and the lack of my ability shut down my mind, I need something that engages my mind during the workout.  If my mind is focused on the movements and exercises I have to perform, then I can't think about all the other things going on in my life!  Functional Training at Rockstar means that I don't get bored!  I came away from my first workout mentally and physically energized.  Each workout is different, moving from one exercise to another, changing intensity and focus.  And honestly, that is one thing that makes working out so much easier for me.  

Since we work out at Rockstar only on Friday's, I wanted to add something to the rest of my week. It needed to be mentally and physically challenging to me - see "bored" above.  The choice - Yoga!  Yoga offers me the mental challenge of focusing on breathing, relaxing into each pose and the physical challenge of attempting each different pose.  Enter - Yoga Studio:




There are so many reasons I love this app:


  • I can do yoga in the comfort of my own home! More specifically, in my bedroom, with the door shut, so I am alone. I can even turn on my diffuser or apply a drop of doTERRA Peppermint oil before the workout to enhance focus and breathing
  • I get to choose how much time I want it to take! There are 10, 15, 30, 45 and 60 minute classes. Just pick a class, download it and you are ready to go.
  • I get to choose the difficulty! There are beginner, intermediate and advanced classes.
  • I can schedule them in! There is a calendar feature (that will sync with your phone calendar) to schedule out the day/time/class.
  • I can mix up my yoga classes! As I mentioned before, I get bored easily.  This app allows me to select from over 65 pre-made classes. Or I can put together my own.
  • I can select what I want to focus on!  Strength, flexibility, balance, relaxation or a combo.
  • I can go to the "Pose Library" for a demo of any specific yoga pose!
  • Lastly, it only cost me $3.99!


I started out scheduling a 15 minute, beginner yoga class 4 mornings a week.  I thought, "I can do 15 minutes, right?"  Ok, it was more like "Will my kids be able to leave me alone for 15 consecutive minutes??"  Now I am ready to move to 30 minutes of intermediate.  Wish me luck - the kids are doing great ;)

With these tools, I am learning the beauty and strength my body possesses, I am training my kids to do the same and I am able to engage and function better in every area of my life. I hope this gives you some ideas of how to fit in the "fit" part of your life.






Wednesday, February 10, 2016

Essential Oil 101 Class! (How To!)

Hello again . . . Hello . . .  oh, wait.  I'm not a singer, but I do like to sing the praises of My dōTERRA Essential Oils! And yes, for full disclosure, I am a:  


What does that actually mean?? It means that I love using Essential Oils and, as a lifelong learner, I love sharing what I have learned with others!  Oh and there are links in this post, of which I have received no benefits for posting . . . I think I better look into that!

One of my goals for this year is to intentionally share oils with others every couple of months. I will be hosting these events at my parent's home and they will include some "Make & Takes".  This includes making rollerballs, sampling recipes that use oils, making cleaning products, personal products and whatever I come across.  I will be sharing each get-together on the blog to show how simple and easy it is!  

My first class of the year was an Essential Oil 101 Class.  This class offered basic information about what Essential Oils are and how to use them.  It was a great class to start the year off with, especially for any first time oil users or those wanting to learn more about them. My dōTERRA  offers so many great tools for educating and sharing oils and one of them is the Class in a Box.  The Class in a Box included a DVD that I use to talk and walk anyone through some basic EO information, order forms, samples and so much more!  

My prep was fairly simple:  I created an Event on FB, emailed those I know already who have shown interesting in EO's, gathered recipes for some yummy snacks (who doesn't like to snack while you learn) and gathered my supplies.  For this Make & Take, we were going to be making some rollerballs.  Rollerballs are a great tool for applying EO's, mixing them for specific needs and for getting the most out of your EO's.  I purchased rollerballs from: aromatools.com, in sizes 5ml (1/6 oz.) and 10ml (1/3oz).  You can even select different colors or styles!  After making sure I had enough rollerballs (the 5ml size are the most popular), I needed some Fractionated Coconut Oil, Essential Oils and recipes!  Recipes for EO rollerballs can be found almost anywhere, from EO books to Pinterest, can be as simple as diluting a single oil or combining multiple oils for a specific purpose. I am still working on pre-printed labels that can stick on the rollerballs, so for this class, I had Recipe Cards printed up with recipes, some blank recipe cards to create your own and blank labels for the rollerballs.  It is very important to label your EO rollerballs!  It's really not a big deal if you use the "wrong"one, but it is a big deal if you really like one and you can't remember what you put in it! 

For the day of the class, I made some yummy snacks (Citrus Fruit Dip-using dōTERRA Lime EO, Peppermint Brownies, and Hummus with dōTERRA Lemon EO), printed off my recipe cards and cut them up, gathered all my supplies and headed back to my parents.  Ok, it wasn't quite that easy, as I forgot the brownies and some items in my printer and had to come back home to get them!  Thankfully, they live less than a 1/4 of a mile from me :)

When the guests arrived, I had them sign-in (name, address, email) and encouraged them to try some snacks and put their name, with any questions they might have, in a jar for a give-away drawing.  Once everyone arrived and had settled in, I did a quick welcome and introduction and then we began.  I decided to show only one segment from the dōTERRA  DVD called "What are Essential Oils".  After showing the video, I started pulling out the questions and there were some great ones!  "Does dōTERRA have a Rose Oil?", "How is dōTERRA different from other oil companies?', "What are the no-no's of using essential oils?", and my favorite "What can I use essential oils for?"!  Once the questions were answered, I explained how the rollerball making would work and we all went at it!  There was a lot of chatter, questions and laughter.  It was great to have another Wellness Advocate on hand to answer questions and lend a hand in looking up oil uses.  

Overall, the night was a success!  Most importantly, it was such fun to see everyone dive right in and get excited about using EO's! So, what should my next class be -cleaning products for the home or skin care products!  What would interest you?  And if you're very interested, follow me on Facebook or comment below for more information!




Sunday, January 31, 2016

Become Like a Little Child



Jake and I are reading through The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz and came upon this today:

      "We have memories of long ago, when we used to be free and we loved being free, but we have forgotten what freedom really means.

      If we see a child who is two or three, perhaps four years old, we find a free human.  Why is this human free? Because this human does whatever he or she wants to do.  The human is completely wild.  Just like a flower, a tree, or an animal that has not been domesticated --- wild! And if we observe humans who are two years old, we find that most of the time these humans have a big smile on their face and they're having fun.  They are exploring the world.  They are not afraid to play. They are afraid when they are hurt, when they are hungry, when some of their needs are not met, but they don't worry about the past, don't care about the future, and only live in the present moment.

      Very young children are not afraid to express what they feel.  They are so loving that if they perceive love, they melt into love. They are not afraid to love at all.  That is the description of a normal human being.  As children we are not afraid of the future or ashamed of the past.  Our normal human tendency is to enjoy life, to play, to explore, to be happy, and to love.

      But, what has happened with the adult human? Why are we so different? Why are we not wild?"

The first thing that came to my mind is this verse from Matthew (18:3) : "And He said: "Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven."  The second thing that came into my mind was a video I took of Boy 3 about 8 years ago . . . this boy, he has always been free and wild and his joy knows no end.   



He's 11 now.  He still is pretty wild and free and brings me great joy. <3  Praying for myself and you that we can be like a little child.







Thursday, January 14, 2016

How I - Inadvertently - Tamed the Laundry Monster

It's cold here in Indiana!  Not much to do except sit next to the fire, put a warm laptop on and write a blog post - about laundry.

 I know, it's not your favorite subject, nor is it mine, but it is something we all must deal with.  As my recently ill husband said when I mentioned I would have to wait to wash the sheets when he was out of them . . . "Yes, just like clothes, it's much easier to wash them when you're not in them"!

As a family of six, we have a lot of laundry, clothes, running/work out clothes, towels, sheets, delicate's, hand wash . . . the list goes on!  Thankfully, quite a few years back we had an old house issue that inadvertently led to a laundry solution.

Have you ever heard of a "dry well"?  WELL, I hadn't!  ;) I guess it's something that may come along with an old home such as ours. Our dry well was right next to our driveway and front step and apparently, it was full.  Yes, our dry well was full . . . of laundry water . . . As I type this, I realize how little sense this may make, so if anyone out there can explain it to me, please do.

Until we were able reroute our laundry water, we couldn't wash more than one load at a time or the water filling up the dry well would seep up out onto our driveway, walkway and yard.  And since this was in the middle of winter, freeze.  "Welcome to our home, watch out for the small, ice covered pond on your way in!"  

So, I started washing one load a day . . . and then I assigned each member of the family  a laundry day  . . . and then I started to teach my kids how to do their own laundry!  Aaahh, yes, you can see where this is going!!! Freedom!!!  Ok, maybe not freedom, but freedom from the Laundry Monster!  No longer did I have 4-5 loads to do at a time.  No longer did I become extremely b-o-r-e-d washing, drying, folding and putting away laundry.  No longer was this another chore for mom to do.  This became an opportunity to instill a life skill to my children, to lessen my load as a mom and to give up some areas of control.  My boys (Baby Girl-6, is still learning) can now wash, dry and put away their own laundry!  Granted, they may not fold them, but if they are ok wearing wrinkled clothes, good for them! They can also help out if I need a load of sheets put in the dryer or a load of towels put on to wash.  

These days, we sometimes have to do more than one load a day and we can, since we have rerouted our laundry drainage. But I still stick to a load a day for each family member.  There have been 2 other changes since then that have helped lessen our laundry - the most recent, Norwex Towels - the other, we know what clothes we need and what clothes we don't!  With my kids washing their clothes once a week, they need enough pants/shorts, underwear/socks, and shirts to get them through a week.  If they are only using the top half of a shirt drawer, we get rid of some!  If they stay in their pj's because they have no clean pants (and not because they are homeschooled), we need to go shopping.  

Now if I could only find a way to get my whites WHITE as Snow!


Wednesday, January 6, 2016

Back to the Books

It's that time of year again. Time for resolutions, new goals, blah, blah, blah.  I am not a resolution maker - really, isn't the purpose of making them so you don't have to accomplish said resolution?  Ok, maybe not, but that is usually what happens.

I am happy, however, to be moving past 2015 and into 2016.  This past year has been difficult to say the least - maybe, someday, I will do a post on that.  2016 is set to have it's challenges too - I have one son who will be moving away and joining the Marines, another one who will be learning to operate a large metal machine car (thankfully, it is rather large) and many others thing I know nothing of at the moment.  So why am I ready to move on?  If I (re)learned anything in 2015 it is that My God is a big GOD!  He can handle anything and whether or not all is smooth sailing, extremely difficult, incomprehensible or just down right hard, He's got it.  I may not see the whole picture, ever, let alone this day, week, month or year, but that doesn't mean He's not redeeming it all.  So, no matter what 2016 brings, I've got a big God that has already shown His love for me through his son, Jesus and really, what more do I need? So, no resolutions for 2016, just taking it one day at a time and trying to be in the here and now, enjoying the moment and leaning on HIM through it all.

All that to say that I am back to reading.  2015 what not a record breaking book-reading year for me and if you know me, you know I love to read.  I may or may not, at one time, had the nickname . . . Rita-book . . . get it?  Yeah, I know . . .

I don't have a set amount of books to read this year, but I have enlisted the help of Goodreads to keep track of what I am reading and to get book suggestions.  Come, follow me and see what I am reading, what I want to read and even suggest some of your favorites.  There may be a good chance I've already read it, but if not, I'm always looking for a good read!